Triggers are strong reactions to our pain and unmet needs. Many people are scared or cautious of emotions, but what they are actually afraid of are their reactions.
I used to think that when someone got triggered they got really angry or upset. This is one of the ways it can manifest, but it could also look like feeling shutdown, helpless, hopeless, terrified, out-of-control, trapped, frustrated, or annoyed.
For me it can often look like shutdown and avoidance. In the past I often haven't even realized what I'm doing. Self-awareness has been a big part of my journey and is the starting point to be able to access and get healing for pain. These are some of the things I have learned with The Compassion Method.
When you are triggered your "adult brain" shuts off and you jump back to your "child brain". That is why it is so hard to think clearly and handle an "adult" situation.
A trigger isn't bad. It is simply alerting you to deeper, unresolved pain. When you follow the feelings back to childhood and bring in comfort and compassion, it makes the biggest difference!
To learn more listen to this:
Triggered and True: What You Don't Know About a "Trigger"
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