The Real Question

I've often wondered if people like me. It may be my boss, or co-worker, or friends from church, or perhaps even family. It could be people I meet in the store, or children, or customers...the list could go on and on. I've tried so hard to be "likable" (whatever that means!).

Recently I realized I had it all wrong. The question isn't: Do they like me but do I like them? It really turned things around. The focus was totally different. It gave me hope. I can't change other people but I can change myself. 

I'm not talking about being nice on the surface and then talking about them behind their back, but really seeing them as the Father does. Asking Him to show you His heart for them. Treating them with honor and respect even when you don't always agree. 

It is much more productive to try and figure out if I like someone (and ask God to change me, if needed) than to try and figure out if they like me. 

And you know...if you like someone...most likely they will like you back.