To Be Seen

"Every single moment you are thinking of me." 

Psalms 139:17 TPT

There are 10 basic emotional needs that every child has. 

1.    Being Seen

2.    Being Heard

3.    Being Accepted

4.    To be Played With

5.    To be Taught

6.    To be Protected

7.    To be Provided For

8.    To Know You Are Enough

9.    Being Valued

10.    Affection

This list is not conclusive and these things may mean different things to different people, but it has been helpful for me to identify legitimate needs. When these are missing in your childhood, it can negatively affect you as an adult.

Today I'd like to talk about being seen. (I may write about some of the others in future posts.)

I have a friend who sees me well. When she walks in there is a huge smile on her face and she gives me a big hug. She listens well to what I have to say, not only with her head, but with her heart. There is plenty of time. There is no judgment or criticism. She may just sit with me or offer wise council, when needed. I feel wanted, safe, cared for, comforted, and valued. I feel seen. 

You may not have felt "seen" as a child, but the good news is that you can go back for that child. It starts with you seeing you, the true self that has only been covered up by pain and unmet needs. If you would like to learn more about the process email Polly Marie Consulting - pollymarie2003@gmail.com.